OUR WORK TOGETHER

Counseling for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers | Family counseling Doylestown and Huntingdon Valley PA | Couples counseling, individual counseling services

It may be time to try individual counseling if you are tired of watching yourself make the same mistakes, or have the same looping, intrusive thoughts again and again.

Life has been an ongoing  struggle with negative thoughts about yourself. If you’re paying attention you may have noticed an inner critic who questions every move you make. 



Recovery

Understanding your past is an important part of feeling better and doing things differently in the present. Because of this, I am passionate about helping you process and move on from the difficult feelings, ideas and beliefs you developed being raised by a narcissistic mother. Together we can uncover the ways you learned to survive–and how these survival strategies are making things difficult for you now. I work with people like you. Together we will walk you through the phases of recovery as listed in the book, "Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" by Karyl McBride. These include:

Learning to see and accept what happened to you. 

This can be hard. One of the best defenses we have is denial. If we can deny that something was as bad as it was then we don’t have to deal with it. Unfortunately, this isn’t helpful in the longterm. At some point we must face it.

Grieving the mother you never had. 

We must do this so that we have the emotional space to be present and strong in our current relationships. It makes us better parents because we have tended to the part of us that didn’t get what we needed.

Understanding  how to not pass down the legacy of narcissism.

 If we aren’t careful we can pass down some of the things we learned to our children. Recovering from being raised this way means we become conscious of our own narcissistic traits, and the ways we are overcompensating to our children for what we didn’t get. 

Becoming the person you were meant to be.

This is the exciting process of seeing who you are apart from your upbringing. What really matters to you. What do you really want from your life. What makes you light up, and what do you love about who you are. 

Choosing a Therapist It is important to work with someone who has experience working with narcissism, its insidious and damaging nature, and how it works in the family system. Therapists who don’t have this knowledge may inadvertently carry on the work of a narcissistic parent by “assuming the best of your parent,” and having you take responsibility for your current relationship with them–when you have been overdoing that your entire life. One of the phases of recovery is acknowledging your hurt and how it has had profound effects on your life. Get Started today. Call me or contact me to set up a free phone consultation or to schedule your first appointment.

Much of our work together will be growing your understanding of your past, how it effected you, and uncovering restricting beliefs you developed during childhood to help you survive. Then we work to change them, in order to provide you with more freedom and flexibility in life. Here are some beliefs that you may have picked up being raised by a selfish parent.

  • There is something wrong with me
  • It's my fault
  • I just need to try harder
  • I'm not good enough
  • I can't get what I want
  • No one believes me
  • It's easy for other people
  • Other people know what to do
  • Life will always be like this
  • I don't trust myself
  • I don't know how I feel
  • I am too sensitive

What Gets You Free

Counseling for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers | Family counseling Doylestown and Huntingdon Valley PA | Couples counseling, individual counseling services
  • I did my best
  • It wasn't my fault
  • I am fine how I am
  • I can figure this out
  • Relationships can be safe
  • I am in control
  • I can say no
  • I am lovable
  • I can change my life
  • My sensitivity is a gift

Through our work in therapy you will arrive at beliefs which are much more beneficial to your life. If you don't think your parent or parents were narcissistic, but you recognize yourself in these pages--please do not hesitate to contact me to book a consultation call. I can't wait to hear from you.

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